I was having a relationship with my BF for more than three years. and we lived together for two years. I loved him so much more than my family. and trusted him more than myself. However, my bf was having an affair with a co-worker for nine mths and f..... her.
I found every thing yesterday and as usual we had a big fight. Now he says that it was his mistake and wants me back in his life again. I still Love him but cannot dare to trust him. Every thing looks like a FAke a drama.

Dump him, n move on dear!

He is my First Love and it is becoming so hard for me to forget after all I've seen and heard

join the club.

Aaba Ma Dr. Phil Hunu paryo yeha. where are our sajha Dr. phil.
Wasn't me

Juxtapositions,

Your boyfriend did break your trust. So it is natural for you to be very upset. It will take you time to forgive him.

From his point of view, he thougth you'd never find out and guys will be guys. Guys have a greater sex drive and given an opportunity it's hard for them to resist. But it might not have meant more than just sex.

It's possible for two people to have sex just for the sake of sex. Maybe he loves you, but just wanted to fulfill his sexual desire on the side as well thinking you'll never find out.

Since he's your first one as you have said, it will be very difficult for you to forget him. I'm sure it will be difficult for him to forget you as well. The best thing to do is to try to work it out if he has realized it's his fault and if he is sorry about it.

The best relationships are those that can survive the challanges such as the one you are having. You do have to be careful that he doesn't take you for a sucker and does it to you again. You have to make that absolutely clear.

One reason why guys might do that is if the girl is very devoted to him. Make him earn his love too sometimes.

too many relationship problems thesedays.... damn !

Do some threesome. It gives more pleasure for some moment. Then forget and get other one.

Still, minor then you must seek suggestions. Did you ask anybody before falling in love? Did you try to contact your EX after entering US and did he? Better ask questions yourself and get the sincere anwer that will help to lead you better life that the outsider. Some of us are making jokes on you and having fun too. So, seek inside you and what you want in long term. Your choice is your decision, because we are talkig in face value only.

You're being rude to her nayasdak.

Making bf / gf is creating mess these days....
don't make any gf/bf.....your parents will search a partner for u guys...

Looks like this guy of yours need a kickass kick right where it matters the most! you go girl!

Dr Sajha,
I really appreciate your suggestion.
Thankx a Lot

guys will be guys excuse?

oh blaaaaaaaaaaaa...that's BS

Kartik maina lagya cha ki k ho.

sab jana affairs ko kura garchan ba...

Kartikya kukkur jasto!

are u pregnant?

Poor girl. There is no doubt that he broke your heart. At first I thought, hey everybody makes mistake and we all deserve second chance, but then I read he is having this affair for nine months. Its not mistake and not a one time deal sort of thing and he clearly does not loves you. Not from deep inside the heart. It takes years to build the trust and second to flush it down the toilet. You will never be able to trust him and this trust thing, it will hunt you forever. My suggestion, be strong and move on. There are other greater challenges in life than breaking up.

YEah Right S.......

It took three years to build a trust and one day Sept 11 to break it. I think you are right there are more challanges to face up in my life than just a relationship. Its true that he is my first love and I loved him more than anything else and I still dooo but i don't think we can have a normal/ healthy relationship like before.

So, move on with my life.

Hey girl,
Be strong move on.This guy doesn't deserve u.He cheated on u for 9 months.It's not a joke.Infact ,this guy was/is never serious about u otherwise he wouldn't sleep with a co worker for 9 long months.I think u r the only one giving and trustworthy in this relationship.Com'n girl,this guy is not even capable of getting someone's love.Don't be emotional,just move on.
I'm sure u'll find somebody a lot better than him,someone who u can trust in your life.
Just move on,don't be miserable and don't mess up your life with this guy.
Cheer up :-)